{"id":1078,"date":"2025-11-06T23:35:41","date_gmt":"2025-11-06T23:35:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nolongeravictim.today\/?p=1078"},"modified":"2026-05-14T20:06:22","modified_gmt":"2026-05-14T20:06:22","slug":"calm-phase-of-the-cycle-of-violence-part-2-of-4","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nolongeravictim.today\/?p=1078","title":{"rendered":"Calm Phase of the Cycle of Abuse ~ Part 2 of 4"},"content":{"rendered":"
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One resource that is commonly used by Domestic Violence (DV) advocates is the \u201cCycle of Abuse\u201d diagram, which is also known as the \u201cCycle of Violence\u201d diagram. It was developed by psychologist Lenore Walker in 1979. This idea was detailed in her book, \u201cThe Battered Woman.\u201d In this cycle, there are four phases which rotate in an abusive relationship which are as follows:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Honeymoon Phase<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Calm Phase<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Tension-Building Phase<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Violence Phase<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    If there is an abusive person in a particular relationship of yours, just pay attention to the \u201cCycle of Abuse\u201d graphic and you should be able to predict what will happen next and then further, determine if you are in an abusive relationship or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    NOTE: While this cycle usually applies to romantic relationships, it can also apply to family, friends & coworkers. In this second of four articles, we focus on the CALM PHASE.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Definition of The Calm Phase<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    The Calm Phase occurs after the Honeymoon Phase<\/a>, during which the two people in the relationship maintain a status quo without much tension. This stage is when things feel (at least somewhat) normal for the victim of the abuse, and typically having an emphasis on reconnecting is usually implemented in the relationship. As the Honeymoon Phase<\/a> tapers off into the Calm Phase, the abusive partner\/friend\/family member\/co-worker may continue to be attentive and act positive about the relationship; However, you might notice a shift from them being apologetic (common during the Honeymoon Phase<\/a> and may continue into the Calm Phase) to now excusing their actions.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    CLICK HERE TO READ OUR ARTICLE ABOUT THE Honeymoon Phase<\/em><\/strong><\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n
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    During the calm stage, the abuser may try to minimize the incident (which occurred during the Violence Phase). You may notice the abuser…<\/p>\n\n\n\n