One resource that is commonly used by Domestic Violence (DV) advocates is the “Cycle of Abuse”, which is also known as the “Cycle of Violence”. It was developed by psychologist Lenore Walker in 1979. This idea was detailed in her book, “The Battered Woman.” In this cycle, there are four phases which rotate in an…
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How to Explain Abuse to Outsiders
Explaining abuse to someone who has not gone through it is difficult at best. For those people who have been blessed in NOT experiencing abuse, we at No Longer A Victim both celebrate that fact and are concerned about it at the same time…we are happy because we always wish that NO ONE experiences abuse,…
Abuse & Valentines Day
Ahhh…the most romantic day of the year (according to the flower and chocolate industries, anyway): Valentine’s Day. You may not think that the sweetest day of the year is linked to abuse, but it is…and in a surprising way. While most abuse happens on high-profile dates/events (such as anniversaries, birthdays, certain holidays, etc.), Valentine’s Day…
What is Love Bombing?
While the term may sound appealing, “Love bombing” is a form of emotional and psychological abuse in which the abuser goes above and beyond for their victim in order to either manipulate them into a relationship or butter them up to make the victim do what they want them to. Love bombing looks different for…
Don’t Box Yourself In ~ FALLING DOWN Series Part 1
There are many films that deal with the issue of abuse and stalking, but few capture the intense mental state of the stalker more than the 1993 film, “Falling Down” starring Michael Douglas. The film stars Michael Douglas as William Foster, a divorced and unemployed former defense engineer. It centers on Foster’s trek across the city of Los…
Reputation: The Gold Standard for Abusers
Reputation: noun a: overall quality or character as seen or judged by people in general b: recognition by other people of some characteristic or ability…”has the reputation of being clever” 2: a place in public esteem or regard : good name…”trying to protect his reputation“ When it comes to abusers, the primary thing they focus on every day is how they are perceived…
Ho, Ho, How Could This Happen?
Although the holidays are filled with the usual amount of preparation stress, for some people holiday stress means an added layer of anxiety. A simple Google search will tell you that abuse (any and all forms) usually spike during the Christmas & New Year celebrations. But some of you may wonder, “But Christmas is all…
2024 Eclipse & Dolores Claiborne
“An accident is sometimes an unhappy woman’s best friend.” – Stephen King, “Dolores Claiborne” Many people wonder why victims don’t leave their abusive partners sooner, if at all. But until you have walked a mile in someone’s else’s shoes….ESPECIALLY if their mile includes multiple types of abuse….then no one should judge them. Many people assume…
Share Your Story With Us!
Are you a former victim of abuse and would like to share your story with others? Sharing your story about abuse can not only help you heal and put closure on your former circumstances but also help other victims of abuse see that there is a way out and that life can be better! If…
Documentary Series Theatrical Trailer
Do you want to learn more about the No Longer a Victim Documentary Series? We have a theatrical trailer for you to watch which gives a wonderful summary of all the NLAV episodes. We explore all types of abuse that do not leave a physical bruise. In our upcoming 10+ episodes, we will be exploring…